Being a Christmas Grinch, a yay or a nay?
It is no secret that this time of year is one of great polarity. It can be full of excitement and plans. Thinking about spending time with friends and family, full of laughter and giggles and silliness.
Unless its not!
It can be a really tough time of year. It can be a time of great depression and struggle.
There can be many reasons why this is a tough time of year.
It can be SAD, that sinking depressing feeling that comes from the lack of sunlight.
It can be utter exhaustion, from simply working too hard for too long and you have run our of steam.
It can be the first Christmas since the passing of a loved one, the pain of loss heightened. Or not even the first, just the loss is still felt.
All in all it doesn’t feel like there is much to be feeling christmasy about. I’ve been there.
If you need to take Christmas off this year. Then you go for it. It is completely acceptable to have a time off being a bit of a Grinch. There is no need to feel guilty about it, or to feel like there is something wrong with you. You don’t have to be bullied into pretending to be feeling the Christmas spirit, if you simply don’t. There will always be other Christmases. Other times for festivity.
If it was any other time of year you could give yourself the space, time to heal in whatever way works for you.
Your priority is to connect back to joy in the way that feels right for you. If that means no Christmas decorations, that’s fine. If it means you choose to hide away for a couple of days in your burrow before you reemerge back into the world again, then you do that.
I’m all for a good wallow, with the cautionary pause around how long you let yourself wallow for. Don’t over wallow.
The trick is to listen to your heart without guilt, without pressure, to really give yourself permission to be feeling the way that you feel. You will find that time will pass quicker and easier than when you struggle against it.
Go for it, be that Grinch. Surround yourself with self love, find the small things that will create a smile, moments of laughter, without stress or strain or expectation. All is well in the end.